My grandmother asked me to tell you she is sorry/F.Backman/ Recommendation #4| Laguna

“People in the real world always say,

when something terrible happens,

that the sadness and loss and aching pain of the heart will “lessen as time passes,”

but it isn’t true. Sorrow and loss are constant,

but if we all had to go through our whole lives

carrying them the whole time, we wouldn’t be able to stand it.

The sadness would paralyze us. So, in the end,

we just pack it into bags and find somewhere to leave it.” 

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“My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She’s Sorry”  is probably the warmest, kindest,  sweetest book I’ve ever read. It fills my heart with so many emotions, mostly LOVE while reading.  It is a story full of flaws and mistakes, that all grow-ups make in life and how they deal with it, and on the other hand, the children view on all of that.

“Only different people change the world,”

Granny used to say.

“No one normal has ever changed a crapping thing.” 

 

Backman wrote the story of Elsa, an extraordinary, amazing, and sweet little girl growing up in an apartment building full of misfits and characters, a girl raised by her mum Ulrika and her wild, iconoclastic Granny. Elsa is wise beyond her years. She is fearless, precocious, saucy, and irresistibly lovable. Her Granny has created for and with her a magical world, a place of miraculous kingdoms and fairy tales to which they “travel” together in their minds whenever they need to escape and to ease the hurts caused by the world around them. When Elsa’s Granny dies, she leaves behind a series of letters which Elsa must find and deliver one by one. More than simple amends, Granny has constructed a real-life scavenger hunt to help Elsa to explore her world, to learn to understand the people who surround her and to apologize for her Granny’s many slights and foibles.

“Because not all monsters were monsters in the beginning.

Some are monsters born of sorrow.”

 

Elsa has learned to navigate the world through her mother’s rigidity and order and her granny’s utter chaos and creativity. Though the two central, formative figures in her life seem diametrically opposed to one another, Elsa somehow, magically, mirrors them both.

“My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She’s Sorry” is an adult fairy tale. It is full of magic and wonder.  In an honest, visceral exploration of love, friendship, grief, and human fallibility, Backman has created something, pure, and magnificent. And as the sage Elsa says, “Anyone who doesn’t agree needs their head examined.”

“Don’t fight with monsters, for you can become one.

If you look into the abyss for long enough, the abyss looks into you.” 

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Summary 

Elsa is seven years old and different. Her grandmother is seventy-seven years old and crazy, standing-on-the-balcony-firing-paintball-guns-at-men-who-want-to-talk-about-Jesus-crazy. She is also Elsa’s best, and only, friend. At night Elsa takes refuge in her grandmother’s stories, in the Land of Almost-Awake and the Kingdom of Miamas where everybody is different and nobody needs to be normal.

When Elsa’s grandmother dies and leaves behind a series of letters apologizing to people she has wronged, Elsa’s greatest adventure begins. Her grandmother’s letters lead her to an apartment building full of drunks, monsters, attack dogs, and totally ordinary old crones, but also to the truth about fairy tales and kingdoms and a grandmother like no other.

“Ljudi u stvarnom svetu uvek kažu,

kada se dogodi nešto strašno,

da će se tuga, gubitak kao i bol srca “smanjiti kako vreme prolazi”

ali to nije tačno. Tuga i gubitak su konstantni,

ali ako svi moramo proći kroz ceo život

da ih nosimo sve vreme, nećemo moći da ga podnesemo.

Tuga bi nas paralisala. Dakle, na kraju,

samo ga spakujemo u vreće i nađemo negde da ga ostavimo. ”

Rezime

Elsa ima sedam godina. Njena baka ima sedamdeset sedam godina i malo je luckasta – između ostalog ima običaj da sa balkona gađa pejntbol kuglicama nepoznate ljude. Ona je takođe i Elsina najbolja, i jedina, drugarica. Elsa noću traži utočište u bakinim pričama, u Zemlji skoro budnih i Kraljevini Mijami, gde su svi drugačiji i niko ne mora da bude normalan.

Kada Elsina baka umre i za sobom ostavi niz pisama u kojima se izvinjava ljudima kojima se zamerila, počinje Elsina najveća avantura. Bakina uputstva je vode kroz zgradu ispunjenu pijancima, čudovištima, opasnim psima i starim zakeralima, ali joj otkrivaju i tajnu o bajkama i kraljevstvima iz priča i o baki kojoj nijedna druga nije nalik.

 

Backman je napisao priču o Elsi, izvanrednoj, neverovatnoj i slatkoj devojčici koja je odrastala u stambenoj zgradi punoj pogrešaka i likova, devojcice koju je podigla njena mama Ulrika i njena divlja i egocentricna baka. Elsa je mudra i  iznad svojih godina. Ona je neustrašiva, neobična i neodoljivo ljubazna. Njena baka je stvorila za nju i sa njom magični svet, mesto čudesnih kraljevstava i bajki kojima  “putuju” zajedno u svojim mislima kad god trebaju da pobegnu i da olakšaju bolove koje je prouzrokovao svet oko njih. Kada Elsina baka umre, ostavlja iza sebe pisama koje Elsa mora pronaći i isporučiti jedan po jedan.Baka je izgradila nekakvu vrstu potrage ,da u stvarnom životu pomogne Elsi da istražuje njen svet, da nauči da razume ljude koji je okružuju i da se izvinjava zbog bakinih i svojih  mnogih slabosti.

Elsa je naučila da se kreće kroz svet, kroz zivot svoje majke i njenu kreativnost. Iako se dve centralne, formativne figure u njenom životu dijametralno suprotstavljaju jedna drugoj, Elsa nekako, magično, odražava oboje.

“Moja baka vam se izvinjava” je bajka za odrasle. Puna je magije i čuda. U iskrenom, decjem istraživanju ljubavi, prijateljstva, žalosti i ljudske greške, Backman je stvorio nešto, čisto i veličanstveno. I kao što kaže mužjak Elsi: “Svako ko se ne slaže mora ispitati svoju glavu.”

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“Zato što nisu sva čudovišta bila čudovišta na početku.

Neka su čudovišta rođena od tuge. “

23 Comments Add yours

  1. bookwormscornerblogspotgmailcom says:

    This sounds like an interesting read.

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  2. Empress DJ says:

    I would not have noticed this one without your review, you have me pining for it 😉

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  3. This isn’t something I would normally pick up on my own, but you have me curious.

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    1. Me too. I am not so much into fiction, but after I read A man called Ove and liked the Backamn’s writing i decided to try this one and I am really satisfied.

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  4. jenchaos76 says:

    It sounds intriguing

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  5. I read this about a year ago for my book club, and didn’t love it. I did introduce me to other Backman novels!

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    1. Gayathri Lakshminarayanan says:

      I feel the same. I read ‘A man called Ove’ and I loved it. So I immediately gave this a chance and I enjoy it as much. I love the plot but I felt it was drag-y.

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    2. I like it. But I like Ove more

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  6. Heidi says:

    Great review!

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  7. vidyatiru says:

    oh this sounds so wonderful!! i am adding this to my tbr..

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  8. robint60 says:

    Glad you enjoyed the book.

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  9. Amazing review, I have this book on my tbr list but I have not read it yet, it really does looks and sounds absolutely like a very emotional and sweet story. I can’t wait to pick it up and read it soon, thank you so much for sharing your awesome post.

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    1. I am so glad you like it. Thank you❤

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  10. I’m glad you enjoyed this! I had seen it in a bookstore but never thought to pick it up, I might just have to now

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    1. Happy to hear that! Hope you will luke it

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  11. Lulu says:

    This sounds like such a sweet and emotional book. My own grandmother recently passed so this is definitely a book I’m going to pick up

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    1. Sorry to hear that. I hope you will like it.

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    2. So happy to hear that!! 😁

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  12. bitchbookshelf says:

    I’ve overlooked this book for so long. Thanks for sharing. Now that I read the synopsis and your review, I’m interested!

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